Driving into the church parking lot I noticed that Jeffrey’s vehicle and my dads were both there. I put on a cheerful not-nervous-at-all face and walked into the church. I heard some cheerful banter in the kitchen so I made my way into there. Greeted by some familiar faces I joined the conversation and was quickly laughing along with everyone else. I am slightly foggy on how Jeffrey asked me to go outside to talk but we ended up out there sitting across from each other at a outdoor stone table right in front of our church.
Now previous to this moment in time this table actually was a kind of meeting spot for us. Slightly a joke really, if any of you know Narnia you will recognize why. Really the only times Jeffrey and I would see each other was at church, so if we wanted to sit down and talk a bit we would either email prior to the service or ask when we saw each other to “meet me at the stone table”. It started out as a joke but then we used it enough that it became an actually phrase between us! So it was fitting that we met at the stone table to talk through what had transpired between my dad and himself a few hours before. We sat at the stone table with a group of ladies at the table beside us, and children running around playing at the play structure a few feet away … not the most private atmosphere. Jeffrey and I just sat there in silence for awhile; Jeffrey being someone who wants to word it right. After beating around the bush for awhile I pleaded with him to just say what he wanted to really say! He then asked if I wanted to enter into a relationship with him. I squealed in typical fashion and said yes! I felt like I had just gotten engaged! I was so excited!
We talked a little bit more and then went inside the church where my dad and his dad were talking, I’m pretty sure they were waiting for us. :P I was all smiles and so was Jeffrey. I went and hugged my dad and thanked him and then I was about to hug Jeffrey's dad, I stopped myself looked at him and asked if I could hug him too and he consented, haha. So I hugged him and thanked him too. Our fathers have probably been our greatest supporters during this journey. That has been a big blessing! My dad was single at the time and understood what we were going through as we went through it… he was sort of walking in our shoes. Jeffrey’s dad loved me and accepted me as though I was a long lost daughter! Jeffrey’s dad and I though also have the same virus… the aviation disease. Its pretty serious actually... you need to fly to keep the disease at bay.... Jokes aside though, we do get along very well! We went into prayer meeting and sat together there for the very first time!
A lot of learning had to happen, for me especially, during the next few months. I know I will never stop learning. We’ve had a lot of adventures since then and the next 16 months were full of healing, forgiveness, pain, tears, fun and laughter. We’ve grown to respect each other more and more over time. Finding out that we have more in common than just music and photography… we love Jesus and desire that we honour and serve Him with this relationship. Realizing that the devil is out to ruin relationships that desire to serve and glorify Jesus Christ is the first step to not letting yours become a statistic. The beauty of marriage is the fact that it is a mirror reflection of Jesus Christ and His Bride. It is a beautiful image! Jesus is zealous for His bride and eagerly awaiting the time when He can come for her, His pure bride in a spotless white gown!