So two days ago was Mother's Day. There's something in me that has never cared for this day because I know mom didn't like it…. but when you get the sympathetic looks as people hug their moms or walk by then it starts to bother me a little bit that I don't have a mom to give a card and a hug that morning.
I was falling asleep one night and thinking… (because that's where I get most of my thinking done.) I was thinking about how much I love hearing stories about my mom! We had one of mom's best friends and her family over for supper one evening and she had been telling me and my sister stories about mom that really only girls would care about.
I loved that time so much! I didn't want her to stop sharing! I have been known to randomly ask people for stories of my mom or things they remember about her.
A dear woman gave a tribute to my mom on Sunday at church [link at the end], along with a few other tributes to other moms. I started crying as soon as she walked on stage and I didn’t stop until she was done. I walked out of the sanctuary to get some tissues and one of our pastors wives followed me out. She gave me a hug and just told me that she had been praying for us. I was so full of gratitude and love for the family of God Sunday that it brought on another flow of tears! Afterwards people came and just have me hugs or showed me they cared in their own ways… that whole morning really touched my heart in a very special way.
I read a quote on a blog somewhere recently that “time is the “currency” in a relationship”... that meaning that time is the best gift and most valuable thing you can put into a relationship. I loved that! It made me realize that even though I'm incredibly busy with flight school and work that my main priority needs to my relationships first with Jesus Christ and second with my family and friends. One thing I've found difficult is a boyfriend (sorry babe), but I have made mistakes in the past where I put him above everyone else. Once I realized that I tried to make a weekly rule (it didn't always work out but it was more of just a mindset thing); one evening/date a week for the boyfriend, one for girl friends (per girl friend) and the rest for family. Of course sometimes I spend more time with Jeffrey in a week and sometimes it doesn't workout to get together with my friends but it made me feel a lot more productive in giving the needed “currency” to each relationship.
Now how does that tie into Mother's Day you may ask… well let me tell you! I only realized all of this after my mom died. I got a lot of time with mom, but there's still always those times where I think back and know I let a precious moment slip away. I don't beat myself up over it but it makes you realize just how valuable time is. That my friends is why I was crying Sunday morning, I realized how precious those memories are that I have of my mother, how blessed I was to have her for 15 years of my life, how honoured I am to have Lisa Wiebe as my mom and how people respect that name as one of an honourable woman of God, and how much I need the family of God that Jesus has placed in my life for such a time as this.
The sermon with the tribute to my mom click here [the tribute is at 37:30 min]