The lady smiled at me as I put my merchandise on the counter at the dollar store, “Find everything alright?” “Yup, thank you.”. She rang my stuff through then seemed to notice my ring. “You engaged?” She asked. “Yes I am!” “Oh really?! You look way too young to get married!”, I chuckle nervously as I slipped my card into the machine, I never know where people will go after a comment like that. “But he’s the right one, right?!” She continued, “Yeah. Yes definitely!” I responded. I have started to get used to comments like that. I never saw myself as “to young” to get married when I said yes to Jeffrey, but now I am starting to realize the worlds mentality in regards to marriage.
Now situations like that are pretty normal for me, but I’m still learning how to respond to them. Do you agree you are to young? Well no because I really don’t think I am “to young”. Now here’s the thing, I am not promoting rushing into a marriage commitment just because age is of no consequence. Jeffrey and I are blessed financially, we aren’t rich but we will get by nicely. Jeffrey and I may not have some of the experiences that some people have but between the both of us we have quite a lot of life experience that has matured us and taught us. Funny little fact about getting married young… we can’t rent vehicles. But taxis are an option I suppose.
So society. Lovely western culture has placed this standard out there about how people should live their life. Sadly even the church has bought into this ideal in a lot of ways. One of the first questions you are asked when you enter high school is, “What are you going to do after your graduate?!” I remember getting fairly tired of that question. I was so happy when I started flight school cause then I had a “purpose in life”. I have realized that culture has tried to lay out the perfect life: date and/or live with your “soulmate”, while getting a career through a university degree, then fight to get where you want to go in your career, get married around 30-35, then ‘plan’ your family, then have your “planned” family. The church has bought into this in the sense that it seems that you aren’t a good Christian kid unless you do at least 1 year of bible school after high school and try to have some sense of direction for your life. If you don’t know what you are doing then you may be looked down on. God says stay in my will and the world will hate you, but know my truth and abide in it! (John 15:4, John 16:33)
Really it’s the fact that people think Jeffrey and I haven’t seen what else the world could offer that bugs people. But breaking news: Jeffrey and Regan can see the world together now! We get to grow up and grow old together! I watched a popular young couple get married a few years ago that were both 19 years old when they said their “I do’s”. That was one thing they said that I loved! Growing up and growing old together. Now no condemnation to those waiting to get married or those in no relationship, the main point I’m trying to get across is what a dear friend told me the other night; when you are seeking the Lord and desiring to live a life of surrender to Him, His love will be over your life where ever you go and whatever you do, He will be there in it.