Still on honeymoon status but here's another blog post!!
I am starting to care less and less about man's opinion of me. Don’t get me wrong hormones are real and sometimes I’m crying because I’m so sure the look that a random person gave me was disapproving. But generally I’m good. I don’t need people to tell me I did a good job to feel like it was a good job. Or vis versa. Our generation has a huge fear of offending people. You don’t want to offend anyone! Just saying sometimes people offending me has brought about good change in my life!
It’s so tempting to get defensive and uptight when some starts criticizing you. You want to fight back! But really it’s all apart of the human experience, if you aren’t told something you did is wrong you’d just keep doing it wrong and thus never get really good at it therefore never perfecting the process. That’s how children are raised! With loving correction and discipline they become nice little humans that are helpful to society and get lots of compliments from strangers on how well behaved they are. And believe me and well behaved child is a rare sight these days! Since parents need to correct and train up their children so does our Heavenly Father, and often that comes in the form of someone in the body of Christ pointing something out.
Fearing correction or what people may think of you is a anxiety ridden life that no one should have to live. It’s hard to sleep at night because you keep replying every conversation you’ve ever had in your head hoping they don’t think you are weird or that you didn’t offend someone. That is not the life Christ has called his followers to.
Jesus’ opinion is the only opinion that should ever matter. His approval the only approval you should ever look for. It shouldn’t matter how many followers you have… it is all so trivial! In light of eternity how much does all of this matter? What they think, how they commented, if they liked me, it all really doesn’t matter. It’s actually a very good thing that Jesus is the only one we need to please. He has unconditional love and gently disciplines those he loves.
Now I am officially on honeymoon status but guess what! You guys are special because I thought of you and decided I’d write a few blog posts ahead of the game! Haha it’s a bit harder than it sounds but let’s do this!
Guys so much has happened in the past few months! I definitely should make this an update post!
Okay so you all know I quit flying almost a year ago now (crazy and so sad!) but now I’m quitting my current job too!(by the time this is posted I will have worked my last day already) Somehow it sounds bad that I’m quitting everything… trust me typically I’m very productive and finish what I start, although a job is a bit different. So I have been at this workplace for over 2 years. There have been basically two responses to people finding out that I quit:
We decided it was also a good idea for me to take this summer off. This summer will be filled with a lot of new things and, since Jeffrey can support our little family with his job, it would be very hard for me mentally to get through the rest of the year with crashing if I had to work on top of everything else going on. So I will be taking the summer off work to recharge for the next season of life. What will I do after the summer is over you ask?! Well I’m applying at a college for a course there and I’ll let you know what that will look like if I’m accepted into the program.
So this summer my dad is getting married. Personally it feels like he season in my life when my mom died all over again. Constantly getting questions about my life and our family. It’s hard to walk through but it has been really nice having friends and family that understand. Plus a God who is always close to the brokenhearted. So that is the one huge reason I need time off, to process and personally heal. Sometimes when these happen it’s like the scab is pulled off a little and you ‘re-greave’ in a sense. It’s not bad that dad is getting remarried, heck I don’t want him to be along the rest of his life, but I still have to handle everything again.
Soooo moving to a more cheerful note! I am proudly in the air flying to my surprise honeymoon destination as a newlywed! I’m officially/proudly now Mrs. Regan Holm! Eeeek! It’s all so new and I need to pinch myself to make sure it’s true!!! Well ttfn till next weeks blog! Love you all for taking this journey with me!!!
Continuing from last week cause there is so much to say on this topic.
In the public school system I have heard they are pushing the ‘facts’ of two women and two men and transgender. That scares me a lot. That kids who are just learning to read and write are being told that since they like to play with cars they must be a boy deep down or since they tried wearing high heels they must be a girl deep down. Seriously the damage that creates in a child is something I don’t really care to explore. They start questioning they every move as to if they are male or female. In my mind it puts a lot more stress on a child then needs to be there.
I was one of the most tomboyish girls I knew growing up. I loved getting dirty, climbing trees, riding bikes and building ramps to jump my bike off of, making my own things and well obviously flying! Not once did my parents question whether I was not actually a girl! Nor did I think anything of it! I still played house and took my dolls for walks and made mud pies but the fact that I made roads in the dirt for my toy cars was just apart of the childhood that made me who I am.
I will never question my kids’ genders, if I’m blessed with children one day, strictly because of this pivotal verse Genesis 2:22 & 23
‘Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He [h]made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
And Adam said:
“This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of man.”’
One man and one woman were created. Their gender was predetermined before their entrance into this world. God thought it good that ‘...a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.’ (Genesis 2:24) he only made two human beings. A man and a woman.
Marriage is the greatest picture that God has given us of Him and His bride, the church. This world is bent on maring that beautiful picture. They will never be satisfied with how they try and “fix” God’s creation, but that’s our sin nature. No one will ever be satisfied until Jesus is their satisfaction. That is really what the world needs. The LGBTQ community will fall apart, the feminist movement will fall apart, the pro-choice movement will fall apart because all of these movements are formed on shaky logic and human desires. That will not sustain in the long run… at some point views will clash and hypocrisy will be pointed out. I’m so thankful for the solid rock that we have to cling to in this time where evil seems to be so paramount.
So where do you find your identity?
In your job?
In your sexuality?
In your children?
In your money?
I leave you with a quote from C.S. Lewis
The more we let God take us over, the more truly ourselves we become - because He made us. He invented us. He invented all the different people that you and I were intended to be… it is when I turn to Christ, when I give up myself to His personality, that I first begin to have a real personality of my own.
Identity. It seems to be a cultural obsession, “where do you find your identity?” Especially when it comes to sexuality… so many people these days are completely preoccupied with it!
Sunday, after missing a turn, we ended up driving through the organization of a pride parade. My heart sank seeing all the people around that were completely invested in the cause of #loveislove. Equality is great… it’s really nice being able to drive as a female or even being able to vote, but then things go to far.
Unfortunately, and fortunately in a way, homosexuality is not a new thing. It was happening in bible times so that means we know a few things about it.
1 Corinthians 6:9 & 10
‘Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.’
Seems pretty clear there. Jesus definitely is not calling us to a comfortable life. God simple cannot abide sin in his presence and so we need to live a life of a higher walk then everyone of this earth. I fail at this so much so I’m preaching at myself. Jesus lowered himself only in the way that he became a man being tempted in every way we are and had the physical appearance of a man, yet he DID NOT SIN. He walked this human life for 40 some years and did not sin. He didn’t lower his moral standards to be relevant to people in his culture.
So homosexuality is a sin. It is a lowering of the godly standards of the Christian life. Here’s the thing though, I do believe people legitimately struggle with this issue. I never have so it’s pretty easy for me to say “it’s a sin get over it!” when I’m not experiencing the inner struggle. Yet I’ve struggled with fear and I know that God says “fear not.” I know how hard it is to change a mindset. So it is a real human struggle that has been over normalized (considering only 3.5% of the population are openingly homosexual).
The LGBTQ community has pushed the agenda of tolerance and equality, and yet leave no room for those who don’t agree with them, the right of free speech is only a right if you are fighting for their cause. As Christians we will be hated, we will be aliens in this world and “In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33) Jesus wasn’t the most popular guy in the sense that everyone loved him. He offend many hearts, the Cross wasn’t comfortable and it never should be! We are called to love and peace but we are also called to stand up for our faith.