And yet another tragic incident overrides the joy that the world is feeling.
A royal baby is born! A baby boy! Media lines the hospital street waiting for the royal couple to exit the building just to get a glace at the new royals chubby little cheeks.
I do have to say that the Duchess had one of the swiftest labor-and-delivery-table to red-carpet-ready turnarounds I have ever seen. But the long awaited baby is here, now we wait for the name to be released.
Yet not even 24 hours after the prince was born a van hits over 20 people in Toronto, killing 10. Why? Whatever possesses a person to barrel down a busy sidewalk has got to be a very broken heart. To want to inflict pain into other people lives, that you most likely have no contact with, must indicate that your heart is in pain itself.
One thing I have learned from working at camp, or even communicating with children and people in general, is that most angry or upsetting behaviour stems from some deep hurt from the past. You have to dig deeper then the actions on the surface level to find a solution to the behaviour. Everyone walks around with a deeper story then they let on. For me it's actually good to remind myself of that fact. I don’t think that is any excuse to go running innocent people down on a street in a major city. There are better ways of dealing with your hurt and pain, namely Jesus.
It's important to remember that there is no pain that you feel that he hasn’t felt. And in the midst of any trial he promises to never leave you, ever. I just pray that the man who felt the need to make other people's lives hurt more will get the opportunity to find Jesus now that his life will probably be spent behind bars somewhere.
‘..for you have been my help, and in the shadow of your wings I will sing for joy.’ Psalm 63:7
After two weeks of M.I.A. I'm back! The site is back! Long complicated issues with payment problems... I won't bore you. I’ll just give you guys a short write up today to tie you over till Tuesday!
The other day Jeffrey and I were in pre-marital counselling/mentoring provided by dear friends of ours. The topic was “Do you know how to fight a good fight?”. It was really interesting to me. When in an argument you can either escalate an issue really fast or deflate an issue pretty easily. I found it so good to have that brought to my conscience. It is very good to realize that you have power of an argument.
“Conflict is like a fire in two ways. It always burns, but the flame always sheds light.”
We learned it's always a good idea to never start with a ‘you’ statement, that just makes the other person defensive. Rather its better to start with a ‘I’ statement.
‘You really hurt my feelings when you laughed at my outfit the other day’
‘I was hurt when you laughed at my outfit the other day’
I’ve personally seen this work. They feel less attacked. It's easier to work from a starting point like that. Conflict may still come after that but at least it's a good start when you aren’t making aggressive statements. That alone, of all that I learned, was a good thing to remember. I’m one that avoids confrontation if at all possible, but I have also seen that be very destructive. Negative feeling and thoughts have a high rate of resurrection in life, a lot higher it seems then positive thoughts and feelings. So I am learning that some things NEED to be dealt with or it only gets worse.
I hope that that short write up was thought provoking!
Now back to regular programming!
In my lifetime I have worked in a few places and I have yet to work in a place with mainly women or all women; that's crazy. Weird fact: I’d much rather talk about planes and cars and boyish stuff then sewing and cooking and clothing, but don’t get me wrong, I love cooking and sewing and dressing up. So I guess it has worked out well that my work places are always full of guys. In honour of my 2 year anniversary working where I am here are 5 things I have learned being a girl in an all male workplace. Please keep in mind that I am in a completely non-christian workplace environment so some of the points will reflect that.
1. Guys tease. Guys are always bugging, making fun of and/or teasing each other! If they catch me on the wrong day with their teasing though I sometimes just wanna cry. It’s funny how guys always seem to need something to bug about something and yet will walk away from a conversation laughing and completely unfazed. Definitely not a girl thing, we walk away over thinking everything that was said and the searching for the deeper, hidden meaning behind every word said. So basically I’ve learned to take everything with a smile and a wave around here.
2. The only people that clean the place are girls and the boss. Honestly I feel like if we went away the place would just get worse and worse as no one noticed the steady pile up of dust on everything that isn’t being used regularly. Oh, don’t even mention the floor… there’s a floor?! It gets dirty?! I’m definitely making it sound worse than it is but in the 2 years I’ve been here I could count on one hand the amount of times I’ve seen some of the guys here help clean. (this doesn’t bug me, I don’t really care. Just a thing I’ve noticed.)
3. They don’t care about how you feel about something. Give them the facts and that's good. They stop listening as soon as feelings come into play. Consequently my coworkers are not my friends, because GIRLS NEED FEELINGS CONNECTION! Just to be clear I have never and will never pour out my heart to any of them. But,
4. Guys enjoy talking about things they are interested in! It makes me smile watching them get all excited about things they are concerned about or interested in. Their convictions mean a lot to them.
5. Guy drama is a thing. I have concluded, although not as destructive as girl drama, guy drama is very real. They are just dramatic about different things. They can get very worked up about the simplest things. I laugh at guy drama like they probably roll their eyes at girl drama.
For the most part I would much rather work in an all guy workplace then an all girl workplace, heard too many stories about all girl workplaces. I’ve appreciated my time here in this work place, and getting to know the community a bit more then I knew it before.