“3 steps to a successful marriage”, “10 ways to get your Instagram following to 2,000”, “5 things you need to drop to have a happy life”... when is life actually not bombarded with those headlines on the daily? And how many times have I actually clicked on them “just to see” when deep down I won’t mind to see something that may make life a bit easier! I think as humans we have a natural tendency to gravitate towards the lists, the promise of the easy fix. Who wouldn’t want 5 steps that would fix life in the messed up world we live in?! Placing our hope in the apparent lessons someone else has learned is dangerous in the fact that no person is the same, no experience is the same, no life is the same. SO in this post about life transitions I will not give you 5 easy steps or anything like that, it will be a raw open post about my walk with Jesus through the ups and downs that come with relationships.
Someone wise told me before I started dating not to forsake my girl friends because you’ll need them! I think it would definitely not to be a stretch to say not to forsake your relationship with Jesus. I’m not going to lie, I really didn’t enjoy dating. That sounds bad but it has nothing to do with Jeffrey. It had everything to do with circumstances and the butt load of driving we did! (Once you drive through more snow storms then you can remember you are very ready to get married.) During dating Jeffrey and I would mainly see each other during church things and maybe once a week at one of our families house. Our relationship was built around people and church ministry. So as someone looking in we probably had a model relationship (actually we were told that many times). That doesn’t mean I didn’t struggle with staying in communion with Jesus, in fact I definitely did.
When you don’t live close to/with your significant other it can be easy to put aside bible reading to text till you fall asleep, or get interrupted and distracted and forget where you were with your time with Jesus. People have most likely told you this but is so worth saying again, you can not live anyone else’s spiritual life, you and Jesus have to have your own. Like any relationship that takes work! But no other relationship will really succeed unless you and Jesus have your own personal relationship. I get it though life gets busy. When you aren’t in the bible school bubble or a set apart time for learning about Jesus it can be hard to set apart time for the King of Kings. Isn’t it so wonderful that he has patience for us! When we get to the judgment throne the excuse that “they” weren’t growing so you thought you didn’t have to put work into time with Jesus will 100% not cut it. Jesus is a God of the individual relationship not the community average status.
In conclusion is Jesus not worthy of our time? Life transitions are not an excuse to put aside the thing we need most, Jesus. Where does your loyalty stand? You 8-5 job? Your house? Your family? Those are all good things but in our humanness we easily forget that, as Christian's, our treasure and life is not supposed to be of this world! There is so much more then we can even imagine going on in the the heavenly realm, and want joy we will have coming face to face with Jesus knowing we were faithful to the calling to which we were called!
"I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called," Ephesians 4:1